December is beautiful, and sad too. December is joyful, and melancholic too. Christmas is full of fantasy, and longing too.
The lights in the windows, the songs, the candy, everything sounds like happiness, but deep down we know that Christmas time hurts.
And as the days get closer, the pain gets worse. Because at that table, there will be loved ones missing who will never be back...
That's why Christmas hurts.
THIS DECEMBER AND CHRISTMAS SEASON HURTS
Dealing with the loss of a loved one is never easy. The holidays can be particularly difficult for those who have lost someone close to them because it's a time when memories and emotions tend to resurface.
THE HOLIDAYS ARE A TIME OF FAMILY, LOVE AND JOY. OR AT LEAST THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO BE.
Many people have lost family members and friends. Others have been the victim of a crime, or abuse, or an accident. The holidays can be a painful reminder of loss for many people. The holidays are supposed to be about family, love and joy. Or at least they're supposed to be.
FOR MANY, DECEMBER IS A PAINFUL REMINDER OF LOSS.
If you've lost a loved one, the holidays can be especially difficult. Whether they died recently or years ago, this time of year often stirs up emotions that are hard to manage.
- If you've lost a job, December is an especially stressful time for many people—and not just because of the stress of finding another one quickly!
- For some people, losing their home can happen as part of another kind of loss—for example if they were forced out by foreclosure after losing their job. For others, it might be happening slowly over time because they're struggling to pay rent or keep up with maintenance costs.
- Some have endured breakups during this season; others feel betrayed by friends who have let them down when times are tough (for example, by taking advantage of them financially).
BUT AS MUCH AS CHRISTMAS HURTS, IT DOESN'T HAVE TO DESTROY YOU.
It’s okay to be sad about the loss of your loved ones. It’s okay to feel guilty for moving forward and finding happiness when they are not with us anymore. It’s also fine if you want to celebrate Christmas this year, but are unsure how because of the pain it brings up in you. Remember that everyone has their own way of celebrating the holidays, so there is no right or wrong way of doing this. The important thing is that you find comfort and start healing from your loss by celebrating what life has given you. For example:
If your love ones passed away before they got a chance celebrate Christmas with them then try creating new memories by celebrating as if they were still here instead! This will help keep them alive in our hearts forever!
While this season can be hurtful, it is important that we remember the true meaning of Christmas. This season should be about love and peace, not anger and resentment. As we approach the end of the year, make sure to take a step back from all your negative emotions and focus on what really matters: spending time with loved ones
This December and Christmas season hurts. It’s important to take a step back from all your negative emotions, focus on what really matters (spending time with loved ones), and remember why we started celebrating Christmas in the first place (love).