"The pain you give back won't mend the pain you feel."
Learning to Heal from Within
In life, we all face tough times, those moments when it feels like the world is crashing down around us. During these times, it's easy to fall into the trap of wanting to hit back, to return the hurt that has been inflicted on us. But have you ever stopped to consider the real impact of such a response?
When someone hurts us, it's natural to feel wounded, angry, even vengeful. However, there’s an important truth we often overlook: in trying to ease our pain by inflicting pain on others, we only perpetuate a cycle of suffering. It's like trying to heal a wound by pouring salt on it; it only exacerbates the pain and delays healing.
The true path to healing doesn't lie in revenge or bitterness, but in understanding and forgiveness. This doesn’t mean we should forget or justify what was done to us. It means choosing not to let those actions dictate how we live our lives from that point forward.
Forgiveness, at times, is more for ourselves than for the person who hurt us. It's an act of personal liberation, a step towards inner peace. By forgiving, we free ourselves from the burden of holding onto resentment and make room in our hearts for healing and hope.
Also, remember that each of us is more than the wounds we've received. We are a tapestry of experiences, dreams, and strengths. By focusing on building the positive in our lives, rather than returning hurt, we begin to rebuild ourselves in a healthier, stronger way.
Seeking support is also crucial. Talking with friends, family, or professionals can offer new perspectives and help ease the pain. Sharing our experiences and emotions is a vital step towards healing.
Ultimately, life is a journey of ups and downs. Learning how to handle our lowest moments with grace and strength is what makes us grow as individuals. Remember, every act of kindness towards yourself and others is a step towards a brighter, more peaceful future.
So, the next time you're tempted to return hurt, pause for a moment. Ask yourself if this act will bring you closer to the person you truly want to be. Choose the path that leads to healing, not just for you, but for the world around you. Because in the end, how we respond to our pain not only defines our present but also our future.
© Shoshan, 12/11/2023
Poem: A Journey of Healing and Forgiveness
In shadows deep, where betrayal lay,
A wound so fierce, fate had its way.
My heart, once full of trust and light,
Now bruised and broken, lost the fight.
The siren call of revenge knocks at my door,
Whispering sweet nothings, promising more.
"An eye for an eye," the cold night breathes,
"Return the hurt, find solace in these leaves."
But in my soul's quiet, a clear voice speaks,
Of forgiveness, a path for the meek.
"In vengeance, no peace shall you find,
Only more pain, a downward spiral unkind."
So with each heartbeat, I choose anew,
A path of strength, towards a future true.
In the horizon's gaze, a dawn breaks free,
A chance to heal, to grow, to be.
I shall not return the hurt, nor harbor hate,
For in the dark of revenge, love abates.
Instead, I offer forgiveness, a brave feat,
A step towards harmony, a retreat.
From this betrayal, no more pain shall birth,
But a life lesson, a newfound worth.
I choose peace over war, love over spite,
In this act, I rediscover myself, in a new light.
May this choice mark the start of my healing,
A journey to light, my spirit freeing.
For what matters most is not how I broke,
But how in darkness, I found my path, stood tall, and awoke.