We've all been there! One day we're the sun ☀️ in someone's life and the next, a rain cloud 🌧️ because we didn't fulfill their wishes. But don't forget this: you're not a genie in a lamp 🧞♂️. You're a human with boundaries and your worth doesn't depend on how much you can please others. If someone changes their treatment of you because of that, the problem lies with them, not you. Make sure to take care of yourself and your relationships! 💖 #YouAreEnough #KnowYourWorth
Notice it because it's true: "People tend to change when they don't get what they want."
When They Stop Being Kind: Navigating Changes in Personal Relationships
We've all been there: someone close to us suddenly shifts their attitude. The person who was once kind and caring no longer seems to be. They stop showing concern for you, their acts of kindness are nowhere to be seen. All this, because they didn't get what they wanted from you.
This can happen in any type of relationship. Maybe a friend expected your support on something you disagreed with, and when you stood your ground, their behavior changed. Or perhaps a family member had certain expectations from you that you couldn't or didn't want to fulfill, and now their attitude towards you is cold and distant.
Experiences like these can be deeply hurtful and confusing. You might find yourself wondering what you did wrong, why someone you hold dear has shifted their behavior. But it's crucial to remember: you can't control other people's actions or feelings, only your own.
It's natural to feel upset and disoriented when someone changes their behavior towards you. But it's essential to understand that if someone chooses to treat you differently because they didn't get what they wanted from you, it says more about them than it does about you.
As tough as it may be, situations like these can provide an opportunity to reflect on the relationship. Is it balanced and healthy? Does this person respect and value you for who you are, or just for what they can get from you?
And remember, it's okay to set boundaries and say no when something doesn't sit right with you. You're not obligated to meet everyone's expectations. You can't always give people what they want, but that shouldn't cost you their respect or affection.
If you find yourself in such a situation and feel overwhelmed, don't hesitate to seek help. Talk to someone you trust, seek advice. You're not alone in this, and it's important to take care of yourself and your relationships.
© Shoshan, 01-15-2024